When Desire Becomes the Cage You’re Trying to Get Out Of

A personal reflection on desire, conditioning, and the subtle way the mind keeps recreating the very patterns we want to escape.

This morning I realized something. And it surprises me a bit that it took me so long to really see this, because I already knew it. 

But that’s the funny thing about consciousness: things can be so obvious, you can know it, without you being fully aware of it.

So this morning it suddenly hit me that by desiring freedom I created a cage for myself. Ironic, I know, and also funny if you can see the humor in it :)

And it’s a perfect example of what we do subconsciously that keeps us stuck, in a loop, or in a situation we so desperately want to get out of.

For as long as I can remember, I long for freedom. And I know so many of you feel the same, because in a way we’re all prisoners of our own programmed and conditioned mind.

It’s the part that keeps you in place, playing small, adjusting, and doubting yourself—you know the part.

So, as a free soul, many of us feel this longing to be free: to follow our hearts and live our deepest truth, to actually do what we came here to do.

And I did exactly that. Got out of the 9–5 system, love working with my clients, found a beautiful place to live, surrounded by nature, peace, and quiet. All perfect!

But here’s the thing I completely missed. My desire for freedom was still there, because what I created was all external, while the program was still there in the background—still lingering.

I keep coming back to programming because we underestimate the power of this. We really do.

You see, a desire is something you want, right? But wanting something equals not having it. Can you see that?

So what I subconsciously did by wanting freedom was create more of the wanting, which meant a tighter cage. For me this showed up financially: the cage of having a hard time to pay the bills.

But it’s the same for relationships that don’t work, jobs that are stressful, bosses that keep nagging you.

They’re all cages. They all keep you in the loop you want to get out of.

So what’s the solution to all this?

Well beautiful being, there are 5 steps:

1 - Go to the essence of your desire. If you desire a deeply fulfilling relationship, the essence can be connection or love. If it’s finding your dream job, it can be fulfillment. Or maybe it’s freedom like mine.

2 - Then feel it. What does it feel like? Breathe into this feeling, make it as big as you can, and decide that you choose this feeling as your reality.

3 - Drop the whole ‘wanting to know how’. You choose how you want to feel and see the reality that matches that feeling.

4 - Walk through the day from this feeling, this energy. Speak, think, and act from this feeling. And if you drift off, just choose the feeling over and over again.

5 - Follow the nudges, stay in the story that matches the feeling, and choose to dwell in it over and over again.

If I had done this—choosing to feel free instead of desiring to feel free—well, let’s just say I would have had a completely different experience.

But there are no “what ifs,” there is only now. And now I’m grateful that I went through this so I can share it and help others so they don’t have to go through it. 

And that’s what INNER FREEDOM, The Summer Shift is here for. A three month journey back to who you truly are beyond programming and conditioning. 

This is not about understanding more—it’s about living from a different place inside of you.

If you feel ready to move beyond the loop, you can join here now for the Early Bird Investment of only €297 (full price €497) 👉 INNER FREEDOM - The Summer Shift

Love,

Chanti

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